Miserable "Childfree" Women Talk About a Topic They Have No Clue About @The Guardian

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0:00 Yogaists, I'm going to review a video called Being Child Free by Choice by The Guardian.

[video] 0:04 I love to play with children. I think they're... I think children are brilliant. I think they have so much to teach adults. So I appreciate them for that. I just won't be having my own.

[video] 0:21 The world perceives child-free women in the most negative light possible. I think it's not...

0:26 It used to be called childless. It's only called childfree ever since they started this agenda.

[video] 0:34 A need for a woman anymore. We don't need to have children.

0:37 We find that... You don't need to have children. What does that even mean? What does need even mean in this specific case? Do you need children to go shopping or to get your nails done? No, because that's slave activities. Of course you don't need children to do that. do you need children to be happy as a man or as a woman absolutely it's impossible to be happy without children you will never be happy in your life completely impossible so you do need them to be happy which every human being on earth wants to be which means that every human being on earth needs children that our own happiness is more important our own mental health And now she even talks about happiness. Your own happiness is more important, but you're going to be absolutely miserable without children.

[video] 1:28 Health is more important. We have been called selfish. We've been called narcissists, which is kind of strange. I do have a coworker who recently had a baby. All of my other coworkers were like ogling over him and making silly faces. And I'm just like typing away at my computer.

1:46 Okay, here's the thing about this. Yes, a lot of women nowadays are very sick biochemically, as in they don't produce the same hormones as a naturally healthy woman would, which means that when they look at a baby, of course it's different to look at somebody else's baby, but still, they don't feel the same as the other ones do. And feelings are purely biochemical, which already proves that If you don't feel what these other women feel when they see a baby or when they think about babies, then you're not biochemically healthy, seeing as you produce different feelings which are produced by your hormones. A lot of women don't understand this. They believe that They simply have this mindset or whatever, which is why they don't react the same way when people talk about children, when in reality, it's purely biochemical. Either you're healthy, which means that you eat a high animal fat diet, a lot of saturated fat, cholesterol, and if you do, you will automatically be obsessed with having children,

2:46 Or you eat a vegan diet, for example, or even a low-fat diet, and you will hormonally not think about children, seeing as you're actually biochemically not really a woman.

[video] 2:59 When it comes to when I knew that I didn't want to have children, it's hard to say only because I don't remember ever feeling like I did. I don't know what the feeling is like to want to have children, you know.

3:09 That's exactly what I'm talking about. She was never healthy.

[video] 3:13 When I'm in groups and there are persons talking about wanting children, I don't know how to respond. In middle school, one of my friends, she said she never had the desire to have kids. And she said that, and I was like, oh. oh, I didn't realize that that was an option. And when she said that, I was like, I don't know if I want to have kids either. What really sealed the deal for me.

3:33 Also, the most important thing to understand here is that 99% of the women who say this actually really want to have children. And what I mean by that is that their brainwashed minds may believe that they do not want to have children, but they themselves, as in the natural human body, is obsessed with wanting to have children because All that they think about is intimacy with the other gender and reproduction, seeing as that's the purpose of your reproductive organs, wanting to interact with the reproductive organs of... the other gender. I'm trying to say this in YouTube-friendly terms. Which is why for these women, as long as they want to be intimate with somebody, it is impossible, completely impossible for them to say that they don't want to have children, seeing as their bodies are begging them to reproduce.

4:30 Whereas the ones who do not want to have intimacy with anybody can actually absolutely say that they do not want to have children because their biochemistry is so far away from how it's naturally supposed to be that they can actually say that they do not want to have children. Yes, because they do not actually want to be intimate with anybody. I don't know how it is for these specific women. They will probably not talk about it.

[video] 4:55 It was my time as a teacher and my time as a nanny. I remember feeling two different ways about my students. One was that I wanted to adopt them all and keep them and take care of them and love them and nurture them. And then the other part of me was like, oh my gosh, this is all day, every day. And that's when the first seeds of maybe this isn't for me started to spring up. I knew for sure that having kids was not what I wanted to do because of my gut instinctive reaction, which was kind of like illness, kind of like a tunnel that just shot out in front of me and looked very very dark.

[video] 5:33 I find it very interesting that a lot of the people who do give me pushback on not wanting to have kids are women.

5:38 Some of these people seem to be pretty depressed and miserable.

[video] 5:42 If you are a woman and you don't understand why somebody else doesn't want to have kids, learn about it. Ask about it. Don't immediately shut them down or think that they're heartless. I don't think that I'm a heartless person. Hands down, responses from women are way worse. With men, it's more like a curiosity, like a, oh, how did you come to this decision? Women see it as an invitation to convince me otherwise. It's, oh, not right now, but you'll want some in the future. What are you going to do when you're old and you're alone?

6:08 That actually is the case, unfortunately, for a lot of women. They say no, even into their 30s. And then when they are way too old, they actually realize that they are miserable and hardly even fertile anymore with their cats and dogs, absolutely lonely and depressed, really realizing that they messed up their whole life.

[video] 6:33 Whatever I want, that's what I'll do. Regret is another threat also. You'll regret it when you get older. The thing about regret is you don't regret not doing what you don't want to do.

[video] 6:47 My parents know I don't want kids. They've known pretty much my whole life. I've kind of prepped them already, like, don't ask because you know the answer.

6:52 The thing is that you can't say that it's something that you don't want to do, seeing as, except if you don't want to be intimate with somebody, you actually want to reproduce, which would automatically mean children. Now, if you would experience children and... they would get god forbid kidnapped or they would die then you could actually say yes i do not want to have children because you now experience how it is to let's say have three children and uh again god forbid all of them die in a car accident you are now child free And you actually had the experience of having children and not having children. And now you say it feels better to have lost my three children. I don't think that you will find any man or woman on earth who will ever say that, but... Those kind of women could actually say, yes, I feel better being childless.

7:51 I feel better having lost my children because they actually have the experience. And I'm not saying that you have to experience everything in life to understand it. If somebody puts their hand into fire, then you can see by their face expression alone that it hurts and that you shouldn't do it. You don't have to put your own hand into fire to understand that it's going to hurt you, but... You will not understand how it is when your baby looks at you for the first time with love and care and you look back at your baby with love and care. You will not understand how it feels like when your baby says mama or papa to you for the first time and they laugh at you. You will not understand any of this because when this happens... your biochemistry changes even more than before, seeing as you would already have to be biochemically healthy enough to be a mother or a father, and then you become even more of a mother and a father. And for somebody to believe that it would then feel better to lose your children, to lose these feelings, is of course ridiculous.

8:50 You know this if you have children, but if you don't have children, then you just don't know what you're talking about. There's some things in life that you can't talk about unless you experience them, because these chemicals that you produce these feelings that you feel when you interact with your children is not something that you can ever imitate. It's not something that you can ever know unless you experience it. Therefore, for any of these women to say that they choose to be child-free is impossible unless they actually had children and they were kidnapped or they died.

[video] 9:28 In terms of pressure from my family, I don't get it quite so much from my parents, but I do get it from my grandmother. Pressure to marry somebody Jewish so that I could raise Jewish kids. I understand that she's, like, where she's coming from, and, like, I know she just wants the best for me, but at the end of the day, I always end the conversation saying, it's my decision, it's my life. I identify as Afro-Latina. My father is from the Dominican Republic. He has African roots. My mother is from Puerto Rico. So when I think about, you know, if I were raising a child in this world, a Black child in this world, you can't control how other people perceive them. My mother was bent on me having kids. Oh, they would be so perfect. But I've spoken to them and I've started saying, I'm pushing 40 and my time is up. And I've been saying that since I was 35, I'm now 36. But it seems to work. My stepmother was, we were fighting and she said, you'll see what this is like when you have kids. And I said, I'm never having kids. And she said, yes, you will. You don't know what you want. You'll change your mind. You'll see. You know, what doesn't occur to people is that a five-year-old could walk up to a grown-up and say, I can't wait to be a mommy when I grow up. And they will never say, you'll change your mind.

[video] 10:25 But if a little five-year-old girl comes up and says, I don't want kids, she's loony. Or she's, you know, she's too young, she can't.

10:30 Yes, but you've got to understand that people see it this way because most women are at least somewhat hormonally healthy still, which means that they have a natural motherly instinct, which means that they want to have children because they want to take care of children. All human beings want to reproduce except for the ones who are biochemically sick. That's why it's very hard for people to understand that if a child says that they don't want to have children, that they won't change their mind. Whereas the ones who said that they do want to have children, and young girls do talk about this all the time, then they are, of course, seen as the sane ones. They are seen as the ones who know what they want in life. And that's because that's what human beings want naturally. There's no reported case of any man or woman in nature ever not having children. Literally every man and woman on earth has always had children.

11:25 It's very, very recent that there have been women who decided not to have children. The ones who actually are intimate and really want to reproduce, but are so brainwashed that they believe that it would be better not to have children. Even though if all of them would have children, they would realize how wrong they were.

[video] 11:48 Possibly know her mind.

[video] 11:52 Guys in my past have been like, oh, she'll make a great mom. This is perfect. It's been important to find someone who is interested in and cares about me for me and not what I can produce for him. I have Tinder, and I'll see guys on there that are maybe 10 years older than me, and they're looking to start a family. I'm like, that's probably the worst thing you could put in your bio, because that's making every woman run away. I mean, at least that's how I see it.

12:15 It doesn't make every woman run away. A lot of women, most, still want to have a family. Thankfully, this is the minority.

[video] 12:25 Nowadays, dating in New York City is really tough, and I don't go on more than, like, three or four dates with somebody. Not on purpose, just because, you know, dating sucks. But it hasn't come up. It hasn't become a deal-breaker up to this point. My partner and I were very serious in our relationship once we moved and bought a home. He and I had a discussion about whether we wanted children. Both of us agreed that we don't. I think he just agreed with my decision not to, more so than anything, because he respects whatever it has to do with my body, so...

12:53 There's also another thing. None of these women are particularly attractive. No offense to them. Maybe the 22 year old one is okay looking, which means of course that they never had any attractive partners. And when you're never together with somebody attractive, then you also don't think about having children because you don't want to reproduce with this other human being who's not really attractive. That's something that will never be mentioned in any of these videos. If these girls did have a very attractive partner, then it would be a whole different story. Then they would simply open themselves up to this option of having children because they would want to have these guys' children.

[video] 13:38 There are lots of other things that make a woman a woman. Caring and nurturing. I love teaching and the passing on of like traditions and culture and knowledge. All that stuff that goes with being a woman. but I don't have to have a child to do that. Why can't women have that independence? Why can't women have all these careers?

13:56 Yeah, of course, because being childless makes you independent. You don't need to be imprisoned by your children. Imagine that, having to take care of... basically smaller versions of yourself, which is what every human, every animal naturally loves to do. No, no, no. That's imprisonment.

[video] 14:20 ...areas or have these passions that are unhindered by any sort of extra responsibility placed on them. There's some...

14:28 Yes, absolutely. You can have a career maybe even easier if you don't have children. Because if you have children, then you should be around them. You should take care of them naturally. Whereas if you don't have children, you can focus on a man-made career, which doesn't exist. Awesome. Congratulations. You can climb the career ladder. You can earn money which doesn't exist. Your job titles may change, which means that you can get validation from your boss. The better of an obedient slave you are, the more non-existing money you're going to get, which is really going to fulfill your life.

[video] 15:06 Something about women who don't want kids that is in a way threatening in the same way a happily single woman is threatening. You want to have kids? That's fine. I need you to...

15:15 I've never heard of anybody calling it threatening. It's sad. People feel sorry for you.

[video] 15:21 Respect. My life choice not to have kids. It's a two-way street.

15:25 Women aren't allowed... Yeah, that's all fine. Nobody really cares. It's that when you start pushing your beliefs onto other people that they start being annoyed by you. Nobody really cares if there's women or men out there who choose not to have children. Whatever. Okay. Doesn't matter. You can... swim in your misery all of your life as far as everybody is concerned. I've never heard anybody say that they are threatened by men or women who don't have children. Most people don't care. You can do whatever you want to. The problem is that a lot of them go on pro-abortion rallies, protest against having children and all of this stuff. As long as you keep to yourself, then it really doesn't matter to anybody.

[video] 16:10 to necessarily make decisions in a very confident way. You're supposed to just follow a script. And I think because women who have chosen to be childless aren't following that script, it makes people really uncomfortable. There's no one way to be a woman. We all just want the best for ourselves. So let's all accept that.

16:26 Yes, exactly. You could say that as long as you would have experience having children. And you want to have children seeing as you want to be intimate, which means that you want to reproduce. You could have five children, raise them until the ages of 10 to 15, and then you could give them all up for adoption. And afterwards, after having lost your five children, you could say, oh, I feel better being child-free. This feels so good. Afterwards, yes, you can actually do that because you have experienced how it is to have children. If you haven't, then how can you ever talk about the topic?

17:07 That was the whole video anyway, her smiling at the end, never having experienced children, having no idea what she's even talking about. None of these women have an idea what they are talking about. As I said, if you would have had children, and then you would have lost them, then you could absolutely say that I just have never heard of a story like that. Never. Are there any people out there who feel better after not having children? It's like this whole story also nowadays about men who... Women especially will say that men abandon their children or they somehow leave their children. I've never actually heard of a story where a man abandons his child.

17:58 Sure, some people are drug addicted, they live in a different reality, they see elephants walking around on the streets, such as very schizophrenic people. Yes, there's severe mental illnesses out there. Actually, mentally healthy men would never abandon their children. The same way women wouldn't. That's because it goes against human nature. You can never feel better without your children. It's just impossible, which is why, again, as I said, you simply cannot talk about this topic unless...